Over the years, I’ve always avoided looking dumb and stupid. I have never failed, not because I am intelligent, talented, or a genius, but because I have never tried.
This is me to a T. One of my new year resolutions is to do what I need to do irregardless of how stupid and clueless I look. Hope it works and I power through the cluelessness.
That's how I regularly feel when It comes to write some new lyrics for my own songs, they've got never released, and I think Is a good moment to change that!
I feel so seen. I think it’s the fear of being judged and seen the way WE see ourselves : not good enough, not smart enough. It’s simply not wanting other people to see who we truly are.
It takes time to build our confidence, and challenge our perception of ourselves. I, personally, am very much aware but stopping the constant performance requires so much confidence, one I don’t have. Thanks for sharing. It’s very refreshing to see other people are dealing with the same things.
all my life I’ve lived with the quiet fear of being “dumb,” so I learned to shrink myself—to soften my reach, to hide my capabilities—just to avoid mistakes and failure. I grew up knowing I could do so many things, yet often chose not to, afraid that if people saw me fail, I would lose whatever made me special.
but maybe what makes me special was never perfection. maybe it’s the courage it takes to keep believing in myself, even after years of fear. and maybe letting myself try—fully, honestly—is not something to be ashamed of, but something deeply human, and deeply brave.
Thanks for sharing your story. I hope it's a good cry! Please go out and try things, let yourself fail and grow from the experiences—all the best, friend.
I used to let the fear of looking stupid stand in the way of my desired to growth. Then one day, my mentor sent me a blog that said you won't get fired for asking stupid questions, but you might be if keep not knowing the answers for a long time.
This is me to a T. One of my new year resolutions is to do what I need to do irregardless of how stupid and clueless I look. Hope it works and I power through the cluelessness.
I hope you can do it! Push through the cluelessness and the cringe :)
That's how I regularly feel when It comes to write some new lyrics for my own songs, they've got never released, and I think Is a good moment to change that!
Thanks for making it so clear and visible
Thank you so much for reading and sharing! Looking forward to hear your songs :)
Always enjoy reading your posts, and happier that you’re on Substack now!
Happier that you are here too!
Great read, I see myself when I was reading this. It's okay to suck at doing something whether it's your first time or not
We are more alike than we think!
I feel so seen. I think it’s the fear of being judged and seen the way WE see ourselves : not good enough, not smart enough. It’s simply not wanting other people to see who we truly are.
It takes time to build our confidence, and challenge our perception of ourselves. I, personally, am very much aware but stopping the constant performance requires so much confidence, one I don’t have. Thanks for sharing. It’s very refreshing to see other people are dealing with the same things.
Thank you for sharing and reading. I'm glad you can relate to this and found it helpful in a way!
Woww, I think this is connected with the fear of embarrassment. Thank you for this new perspective!
Wow, this reminds me a lot. Thanks a lot for brought
this beatiful letters. One of the part that hits me so hard
is "The way you avoid doing something that might
make you look dumb, you are dumb by doing that."
ahhhh, this made me cry.
all my life I’ve lived with the quiet fear of being “dumb,” so I learned to shrink myself—to soften my reach, to hide my capabilities—just to avoid mistakes and failure. I grew up knowing I could do so many things, yet often chose not to, afraid that if people saw me fail, I would lose whatever made me special.
but maybe what makes me special was never perfection. maybe it’s the courage it takes to keep believing in myself, even after years of fear. and maybe letting myself try—fully, honestly—is not something to be ashamed of, but something deeply human, and deeply brave.
Thanks for sharing your story. I hope it's a good cry! Please go out and try things, let yourself fail and grow from the experiences—all the best, friend.
I used to let the fear of looking stupid stand in the way of my desired to growth. Then one day, my mentor sent me a blog that said you won't get fired for asking stupid questions, but you might be if keep not knowing the answers for a long time.
You have a good mentor!
I didn't even know I was doing this until I read this. Thank you for opening my eyes
Thank you for reading and for being here!