So what if you fail?
I have avoided “trying” since I was a kid. And as an adult, I realized that there was a massive gap between my reality and my dream of an ideal life because I kept on running away.
I have avoided “trying” since I was a kid because I don't like rejections and failures. Moreover, in my culture, failing seems to be the one thing that embarrassed us the most. If you're an Asian, you might be familiar with this culture.
Because of how I was brought up, I never had the mentality to accept failures. It's never easy to accept failure and rejection, so whenever it gets too hard, I usually give up and run away.
My go-to behaviour was to leave things unfinished.
However, as I grew up and entered adulthood, it seemed impossible to live without failure. I failed many job interviews, so I decided to pursue a master's degree to avoid "getting a job." But then, I also failed the scholarship interviews, so I turned back and tried to get a job once again.
It's been going back and forth until I realised that, as an adult, I can't keep running away. I realized that there was a massive gap between my reality and my dream of an ideal life because I kept on running away.
So, I started to force myself to try and fail. I failed many more job interviews until I found a job. That was how I learned that sometimes, failure is the way.
Sometimes, failure is the way.
How to enjoy failing
In my experience, treating every “try” as an experiment is easier. If you fail, you learn something, and you gain experience.
In the beginning, it didn’t feel great. But the more I experimented and failed, the less stressful it felt. It became a part of the process—and failing means I’m taking a step forward.
So don't treat 'failures' as mistakes. Failure is proof that you are working towards something better in life.
I hope you find this inspiring. Remember:
It's not going to be easy
But it's not impossible.
Your friend,
Brian
P.S.: Free Palestine.