When we were kids, we couldn't wait to be an adult. Adults have complete control of their life, as well as infinite money and time. They can go anywhere, buy anything, and do whatever they want to do. Ain't that the dream life?
As we get into adulthood, we realized that being an adult does not make you rich and free. Adults may indeed do things younger people can't do, but it does not mean that adults can do anything they want. The dream life, as it turns into reality, it is not as easy as it seems.
As adults, we have the freedom to do anything we want to. However, some consequences come with our decision. We have more things that we can do, but we can't do everything we want to.
For example, you can choose to play video games all night long, but you will feel like a zombie the following day at work. You are free to skip work, pretend that you are sick, and just lay in bed all day long. But the work won't be gone, you are just postponing it—you still need to finish them.
Being an adult means being responsible for yourself. So instead of doing everything you want to do, you start to compromise. You learned that you need to take care of your problems instead of running away from them.
Instead of pulling out an all-nighter, you learn to manage your time better. Rather than coming late and work overtime, you choose to go early and finish work early. It's all about the consequences of our actions, and the only way to learn this is to experience it and learn the hard way.
"Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it."
Charles R. Swindoll
By now, I thought I'd have found my life purpose, living my life to the fullest, and have everything perfectly aligned for the future. But as I grew up, I realized that not even my parents have it all figured out, and they're already more than 60 years old.
Nobody has it all figured out, and no one ever will. Just when you thought you knew everything, life will bring you more things to learn. Everything is constantly changing, and change is the only constant thing in life.
Remember 2019? That was not bad at all, but Covid screwed everything, and the year 2020 was horrible. Changes like this are inevitable; when life as you knew it is long gone, affecting the whole planet in an instant.
So don't seek comfort in life, be comfortable with the constant life changes instead. You will never know what comes next.
Being friends in school is easy. You meet your friends every day, spend hours together in classes, and hang out after school or at the weekends. You'll see each other again tomorrow or maybe next week. Because of that, there is no need to maintain the friendship.
Once you graduated, your gang took different paths. Some got a job, some continued to university, others went abroad. Hanging out wasn't as easy as before, and now you need to make an effort just to meet them. You might have lost contact with some people and remained in touch with the people you care about.
I would say that this is a natural occurrence in life. When people move to a new environment, they will start to change. New places, people, and experiences will affect their personalities, habits, aspirations, and overall their point of views in life. And it happens to each one of us. Scientifically, you'll change the cells in your body every once in a couple of years. So after a while, you are literally a different "being".
If you managed to stay friends with your closest friends even years after high school, consider yourself lucky. Despite all odds, you've remained together.
This is one of the most challenging parts of being an adult. People usually start with denial. They thought they will always have the physiques of a teenager or a young adult, so they don't take care of their body.
But then, you start to feel the change in your body. You can no longer stay up all night and feel good the next day. You gain weight quickly if you eat carelessly and don't exercise. A good night's sleep is a luxury.
I went through this phase a couple of years ago when I realized I can no longer play football properly. I ran out of breath quickly, my kicks are weak, and I can't control the ball with my feet.
That's when I realized my body needs to be taken care of. I started to run 3 times a week to get my body back in shape. I sleep earlier and eat more veggies too. Surprisingly these things improve not only my body but also my mental state.
When you exercise, your body releases endorphins which will make you happier. The pleasant chemicals in the brain, such as dopamine and serotonin, are increased, contributing to your well-being. Having enough sleep cures your exhaustion, helping your mood to get better. And healthy food feeds your brain the nutrients it needs to perform at its best.
So if you want to have a healthier body and mind, and if you want to perform well at life and work, do these; exercise, sleep properly, drink water, and eat healthily.
If you want to learn more about these things, I suggest you listen to the Nike Trained podcast. This is not sponsored, I am just a big fan of them!
As a kid, we never see the caveat that comes with being an adult. Filing your taxes, paying the rent, and dressing appropriately for the occasion, are some of the boring stuff that adults have to deal with. But we managed to compromise, and that is how we matured. We learned how to adult.
As you grow old, you also realized that you'll never have everything figured out. That's just not how life works. You'll only see things clearly when you are almost at the end of the process.
Relationships were not something that you would put serious effort into since you never felt like you could lose your friends. But now you know that you can't take the relationships you had for granted. If you don't maintain your friendship, the distance will grow in between.
Your health is no longer a light matter. Things you thought would only happen to old people started happening to the people around you. You see your friends talking about cholesterol, diabetes, hair loss, and now you started wondering if those will happen to you too.
In different stages of life, we will always learn something new. In a couple of years, we will be an entirely new human being made with new cells. As naive we were as kids, we are now still in the learning phase. And in life, the learning process never stops.
You've made it this far, and you're doing fine.