Isn't it just weird? When you are in school, you thought you'd have it all figured out by now. But instead, as you get older, you question your life even more:
What am I doing with my life?
Should I find a job or continue with my study? If I get a job, what kind of career should I pursue? How long should I stay in a company? How about marriage? Kids?
In hindsight, that's what life is about — an endless cycle of making decisions after decisions.
First, let's align our point of view: Life is a series of decisions. You won't have unlimited options, and you won't have infinite time to make the decision. But whichever choices you make will determine the course of your life.
For example, when you are hungry, you can choose to eat a filling meal or just a snack. When it's past midnight, you can choose to go to bed or pull an all-nighter.
It's not always that simple, of course. For example, when you decided to get a job instead of pursuing your degree, you are making a decision that would affect your future.
Every decision is a step forward. If you don't choose, you'll just walk in circles.
The choices you have in life varies from time to time. Sometimes it's a yes or no. But most of the time, there are more than just two options.
When you understand that you have several choices, you should always learn about their pros and cons. This will help you make a rational decision.
You should never make a decision because of money, or even worse because people told you to do so. Don't make decisions on a whim.
Why is this important? Because usually, what we want is not what we need.
Take a look around your house and see how many things you bought but haven't touched for years. Yep, that's a lot of things. So the next time you are thinking to buy something, make a list of pros and cons.
Make sure that you actually need it.
Fun fact: On top of the pros and cons, I often ask myself—how will my life improve after I bought this item? Can I live without this item? Believe me, this helps cut down a lot of unnecessary spending.
To make your life easier, understand that sometimes it's not your call. And when it's out of your control—why bother? There's nothing you can do anyway.
When you can differentiate between the things you can and can't change, you will be more content. Life will get slightly more comfortable.
If the answer is its none of your business, then stay out of it. Sometimes we forget that something we do might also affect other people's life. And once we're done screwing them over, we left — because it's none of our business.
Once you've made a choice, you won't be able to take it back. However, if you made the wrong turn in life, you can always fix it. Don't ever regret things that had already happened. Let it go.
When we made the wrong decision, sometimes we overthink about it. In the end, we focus too much on what went wrong instead of fixing the mistake.
When you are in this position, remember that what's happened, happened. You can't turn back time, so shift your focus to right the wrong.
Nobody makes the right decisions every time. Everyone makes mistakes, even the people you look up to. Take a step back and look at this experience from another angle: you just had to learn it the hard way. In life, shit happens. Get over it.
Once you made a decision on something, it's not yet the end. You might get the best outcome, or you might have made the wrong choice. But as long as you come up with a list of pros and cons, you are more likely to avoid the worst outcome. Don't dwell on the past, and always move forward.
Life is just a series of decisions. If you never make a move, you'll never hit the jackpot. If you made the wrong move, you learned how not to do it again.