I used to listen to what others say because I did not have control of my own life.
I've gone to places I don't want to be, accepted jobs I didn't want to work on, and I've done things I'd rather not do.
I wish I had known better back then.
I hesitated and stopped doing the things I wanted to do. So I ended up doing things just to get everyone's approval.
And at the end of the day, I never felt content about my life.
When I look back, I realized now that people's intentions were good, but not as helpful as I thought.
They want to help, but it's all based on their biases. What works for them may not work for me. What makes them happy may not make me happy. Because their life is not mine.
I realised that people does not think about myself as much as I'd like to think. Because they're not the one who's living my life, I do.
In 2017, I got a new job and "ran away" to another country. I wanted to get out of my comfort zone and find myself.
If it's not a "f**k yes", it's a "hell no". That's my new motto. And that's how I learned to be content with myself.
I started only to do the things I want to do, and cared less about what people think I should do. I learned how to skate, went solo traveling, learned new languages, and made new friends.
I am living my life. I've only done the things I want to do. I am the main character of my life, and this is my story to tell.
What's your story?