Living beyond regret and worry

Over the past few weeks, I've been having trouble sleeping. You know that feeling when you've been in bed for hours but you couldn't fall asleep? In those moments, I often think about two things: the past and the future.

There’s a heaviness that settles in when we live in the past. Regret clings, reminding us of choices we wish we’d made differently. On the other hand, the future looms ahead—unpredictable, uncertain, and often filled with anxiety.

I’ve spent sleepless nights replaying old conversations, wishing for a chance to rewrite my words. I’ve greeted mornings with worry about what might unfold next week, next year, or even tomorrow. This constant tug-of-war between what was and what might be is exhausting.

However, I also know how to escape these thoughts. It is to notice the simple pleasures in life. I savour a good meal and let myself enjoy every bite. I look forward to that first sip of coffee in the morning, warm and comforting. And when I write or draw, I lose track of time, and everything else fades away.

In these moments, I’m not thinking about the past or the future—I’m present, fully engaged in what I love. That’s where I find peace I can’t find anywhere else.

The past and future are not unimportant. Memories shape us, and plans give us direction. But when we let them take over, we miss the only moment we truly have: right now.

Finding peace in the present isn’t easy. The mind is restless, eager to revisit old wounds or invent new worries. But I’ve learned I can gently guide my attention back to the present again and again. I can notice sensations in my body, the sounds around me, and the reality of this moment.

When I do, I remember something vital: my worth isn’t anchored in yesterday or tomorrow. It doesn’t depend on what I’ve done or what I might do. It lives in me right now, as I am. This realisation softens regret and quiets anxiety. It reminds me I am not defined by mistakes or fears but by my presence—by my willingness to show up for my life, moment by moment.

If you find yourself stuck between the past and the future, try doing something that brings you back to now. Step outside and take a walk, even if it’s just around the block. Treat yourself to a favourite meal and really savour each bite. Read a book, play a game, or lose yourself in a hobby you love.

Enjoy the moment—you deserve to fill your time with things that make you happy, not just things you have to do.

The past is gone.

The future isn’t here yet.

All you have is this moment—so make it yours.

I hope you find this insightful. Remember:

It's not going to be easy,
But it's not impossible.

Your friend,
Brian.